This was a phrase that one of my clients uttered when we were talking about the challenges associated with getting people to take action in their lives or at their work, say in a change context. When reflecting on the number of excuses people will trot out as to why they can’t, shouldn’t have to, or don’t want to engage in some form of change he waved his hand and said “all I hear is blah, blah, blah. Victim.”. I laughed. The sad part of this though is that he’s right. They have, by and large adopted a ‘victim’ mentality, a ‘poor me’ way of thinking and acting. Now consider this, those very same people we’re talking about are not happy with where they’re at, there is pressure to change all around them but somethings stopping them from taking action, or from letting go. What is it I often wonder? Well, it’s going to be different for each of them but there will be some commonalities among them. Chief of those is that they are not taking responsibility. An individual who takes responsibility for changing their situation almost instantly takes back the reins. They are not sitting passively by and complaining when things don’t go their way. They look for ways to exert influence, they scan the environment to see opportunities, not just risks. They collaborate with others to gain momentum, they change and adjust their plans as they progress forwards (or sideways as the case may be). They leverage from their skills and strengths and gain support from friends, family and colleagues as they grapple with the change. As a result these people often get more out of the circumstances than those who disengage or never engaged in the first place.